judith vaughan counsellor

About the therapy  process

Therapy - whether for individuals or couples - is a process of bringing compassionate attention to your relational experience. Whether you come to therapy alone or as a couple, it is from the relational perspective that we can explore what goes on within you and between you. It is from this place that change can germinate.

As your sense begins to clarify, of how you relate to the world, it tilts the lens on the wider realm of your relationships - with others, with life. And with the experiences that are challenging you.

When you’re here, you don’t have to maintain a front or protect others' feelings. Freed of judgements and assumptions, you can let yourself be seen, heard and understood. 

My approach as a counsellor is attentive, attuned and nurturing. This can be nourishing in itself.  My job is both to let myself into your experience and keep myself out of it. I will do my best not to hinder our work with preconceptions, advice or opinions. I will be curious, I will be honest and you will matter to me. 

The contact we jointly develop becomes the crucible for our work together. Each time we meet, the work evolves in a way which is personal, not prescriptive. 

Sometimes you might bring a problem or dilemma. Other times you’ll need to express or understand feelings. You may be curious to explore habits of thought, patterns of behaviour or how to find meaning. You might want to clarify your values and aspirations or figure out new ways of dealing with life's challenges. You’ll probably talk about the people who have shaped you, how you imagine you’ve shaped them. Often you’ll simply need to be heard and valued.

For the most part, you’ll talk and I’ll listen. Sometimes talking won’t be helpful so we’ll find alternative ways for you to find and express your voice. Therapy is serious work, sometimes difficult, often creative and, at times, suprisingly light-hearted. It is most often described to me as liberating.

It is extraordinary what can begin to happen when you are truly listened to.